With the giant lottery draw this past weekend, I reflected, as I always do, on what I would do with the jackpot if I actually purchased a ticket and subsequently won. My conclusion: I would get the f*** out of Calgary.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a nice city and everything, somewhat friendly people, etc., etc. The thing is, I’ve lived here my whole life and a) I wouldn’t mind a little broadening adventure, and b) this place is terrible in the winter. I wouldn’t move to anywhere tropical, as I actually really like the change of seasons and snow on the ground. I would move to someplace where winter is actually only three months long. I remember as a child being fascinated by the idea that November is an autumnal month. November! To me, winter goes from mid-October to mid-April. Not to mention the not-uncommon gigantic May snowfalls. Or the July that I stood amid snow-flurries and high winds for a Stampede breakfast. Groundhog Day is coming up and I always laugh a bit: on February 2, six more weeks of winter IS an early spring.

But maybe I shouldn’t complain, even as I layer the kids into their enormous winter coats and boots, fielding arguments about whether or not mittens are necessary when it is 20 below, and yes, you do need to wear your hood if you refuse to wear your hat. Etcetera. Because even as I’m performing these tedious motherly duties, there are other mothers in this city who are not bundling their children due to the absence of items with which to bundle. This city of prosperity, which lures tens of thousands with promises of wealth and jobs, only to discover the crippling cost of living. This city, which has been insulated for so long, is starting to feel the pain of the economic crisis.

The air is positively biting. Even with the clear Alberta-blue sky and sunshine, the cold is painful.

So, I’m still singing the Pina Colada song, and I still have no idea if that is its actual name or not. If I wasn’t so lazy I’d google it, but alas. The thing about that song is that it is nearly impossible to sing along without belting out in an impassioned way “IF YOU LIKE MAKING LOVE AT MIDNIGHT”. I think I speak for mothers everywhere when I say, um, no, I don’t. (Or maybe I just speak for myself. My ideal scenario is that by midnight, I will have been sleeping for at least a couple of hours. I guess I’m more of an “Afternoon Delight” type of girl, so maybe not totally un-dateable in the 70’s.)

Not to brag or anything, but my husband is incredibly hot – in fact, if I were the editor of People magazine I would surely crown him “Sexiest Man Alive” year after year – but if he were to wake me up to suggest making love at midnight, my impulses would be more homicidal than erotic, if you know what I’m saying. After years of broken sleep (which is still all-too-often broken) I have one general rule: do not wake me up unless absolutely necessary.

Of course, this is partly hypothetical as it seems like my husband is actually physically unable to wake me up. During our recent bout of illness, apparently he had a prolonged and very loud middle-of-the-night coughing fit, throughout which I lay beside him comatose. After his coughing, Jake made a tiny “ahem” type of noise, and I bolted up, wide awake, and ran into his room. What can I say? It’s maternal programming.

If you were to ask me on any given day what (if any) song was in my head, almost always the answer would be some theme song from a children’s television program. Most days, I will be going about my day, humming “Toot and Puddle, what a day for adventure”, or the much catchier “Overture! Curtains, lights!”. (Toot and Puddle – if there is a better children’s show on television, I would like to know what it is. And how can you not love Bugs Bunny? Except of course the fact that our dinnertime conversations now include comments like “I like this spaghetti. I am going to blow it up with a cannonball!”). These themes are highly preferable to the “Wonder Pets” or “Backyardigans” themes, which had a tendency to haunt me in my sleep, and which I’m thankful the boys don’t really watch anymore.

The past couple of days have found me humming actual songs that I chanced to hear (and are now probably going to haunt me in my sleep). The first is the Pina Colada song (does that song have an actual name other than the Pina Colada song?). Upon listening to this romantic ditty, I realized that I am actually the exact opposite of the individual described in the personal ad. In other words, I would have been un-dateable in the 70’s. It’s like how I used to think of myself as somewhat of a free spirit, when in reality I am incredibly rigid. Or how I used to think it would be great to live and work in NYC, when in reality a) I hate crowds, b) I love gardening, c) I can’t stay up late, and d) the thought of packing myself, let alone myself plus two kids, into a shoebox of an apartment gives me eye spasms.

The second song circling my brain is “Bust-A-Move” by Young MC. Yes, “Bust-A-Move”. The sad thing about this is that I actually know all the words. I have to think that this is a large waste of brain space. Really, it’s taking up room for information that I really should have in my brain. Information like, is it okay that my four year old thinks it would be funny to put his brother in a dehydrating machine, and then pour water on him so he is back to normal? And if this is not okay, should I start rationing the Bugs Bunny?

So here it comes, the question of the day – what song is going through your head right now?

When I was an economics student, the process of mean reversion was kind of interesting to me. Okay, I just realized that if anyone was actually reading this post, they have probably stopped. But, if you are still reading this, stay with me a minute. Anyway, it was interesting to me that, for example, inherited or spontaneous wealth has a tendency to mean-revert, exemplified by the high percentage of lottery winners who end up broke after a few years. Another fine example is Barbara Hutton, heiress of the fabulous Woolworth fortune, who died with only a couple of thousand dollars in the bank.

Rob has been away this week and without him, I have been reverting to some single-girl ways. Now don’t get too excited: this is not a post about me Mrs. Robinson-ing with the guys down the street or anything. Since I’m at home with the kids, the shape of our days is pretty much the same as it always is, with some exceptions, dinner preparation being the most notable. The only reason I’m not eating popcorn for dinner is because our ancient and cheap air popper recently set off the fire alarm. I have, however, eaten Greek salad and pita bread for four straight nights, allowing the kids to eat cheese pizzas and chicken fingers. Dinner notwithstanding, the real difference in my day is when the kids are in bed. It’s a smorgasbord of wine drinking, straight-from-the-box cereal eating, and, sadly, NYPD Blue rerun watching. It’s like when the cat’s away the mice will play, only the mice are lamely addicted to the episodes with Kelly and Sipowitz, and also Mini-Wheats.

Now I’m going to go out on a limb and say something that may actually make you die laughing: I think motherhood has actually made me cooler. Please stop laughing. Despite the fact that I absolutely love my minivan, I think I am actually cooler now than before I had kids. Please note that this is highly relative, I mean really, I’m pretty lame. I still love me a good book and a good math-based joke, but at least I don’t spend my days poring over Visual Basic and creating option pricing models. When Rob’s away though, my (relative) coolness evaporates and what emerges is a lame-o girl with a weird crush on David Caruso.

So here’s the question of the day: what behaviours do you revert to when your significant other is out of town?

This morning I woke up without a splitting, pounding, sinus headache for the first time in a while. I’ve been sick, in varying degrees, since December 21. In my last post I wrote about the positives about having sick kids over the holidays. Well, as time wore on and the viruses continued their playdate in our house, my sunshiny attitude became replaced by that of an irritable, mangy dog.

Boring, isn’t it? I mean, isn’t everyone sick right now? It seems like no matter where you are in this country, the majority of people are either sick or just over it. Anyway, we are on the mend over here, the kids are eating to make up for the disturbing illness-related weight loss (my children, never overly stout, now have countable ribs and stick arms and legs), our life is pretty much back to normal.

Jake was the sickest of us all, then he improved, and then he…didn’t. The thing is, I didn’t really notice that he started to backslide until days later. Nothing says “bad mother” like not correctly identifying your children’s symptoms. By the time I took him to the revolting, germ-encrusted walk-in clinic, I hadn’t slept much for days and was in an exhaustion- and medication-induced fog. As I stood in line at the Co-Op to fill his prescription, I started crying and couldn’t stop, the kind of crying that has people looking at you and then quickly looking away. “Are you all right?” the pharmacist asked kindly as I left clutching the little paper bag of antibiotics.

I was remembering the night before, when I was up for the eighteenth, nineteenth, twentieth time with Jake; Jake who was restless and sobbing. Don’t get me wrong, externally I comforted, I cuddled, I administered Tylenol. Internally, I was seething with frustration and impatience, it practically vibrated through me. At four in the morning, after not having more than 30 minutes of consecutive sleep, I said to Rob “YOU deal with him, I just can’t anymore”. Like instead of being sick and in pain, Jake was just trying to irritate or inconvenience me. It wasn’t until the next morning that I realized how sick he had gotten; I started beating myself up and haven’t really stopped since.

I’m not really a New Year’s person. This year my “celebration” consisted of me, by myself, eating a plate of nachos, drinking an entire bottle of wine, watching “Anne of Green Gables – The Sequel” on Access, and passing out before 10:00. But maybe this year I will make a resolution. My resolution is not to win the Bad Mother Award again – I think one such trophy is enough for me.

In the spirit of walking on the sunny side of the street, looking on the bright side of life, viewing the glass half-full, making lemonade, insert other optimistic cliché here, here is my list of the day:

Benefits of Having Sick Children during the Holiday Season:

1) I don’t have to decide whether or not they are too sick to attend school.
2) No one has much of an appetite, so meal and snack preparation is taking up minimal time and effort.
3) It might be a nasty and evil flu-ish cold, but it’s still just a cold, for goodness’ sake. We are blessed to have healthy children, even when they are ill.
4) Rob is at home all this week, so I have an extra set of hands, very important.
5) I don’t have to tire myself out pulling the sled up the hill so the boys can toboggan, which is a good thing since their contagious little beings have caused me to have the lung capacity of someone in a TB sanatorium.
6) We are sure catching up on our TV watching.
7) Since the sick and exhausted boys are falling asleep before 7 pm, Rob and I are able to watch an entire movie after their bedtime, and still be asleep ourselves before 9:30.
8) When they do recover, I appreciate anew their sunny personalities, which have morphed, due to illness, into something like a cross between a sobbing junior high aged girl who was not asked to dance by the boy she likes, and Jack Nicholson’s character in “As Good As It Gets”.
9) The boys actually napped, something that has not occurred in years. When one napped, I had one-on-one time with the other, a rare event.
10) In terms of simplifying my life over the holidays, this is a real winner. Go out or stay in? The choice is out of my hands. When the kids are miserably sick, there is no option but to stay home, stay warm, and snuggle a lot.

Have you been having a nice holiday season? I have, in spite of the constant coughing, occasional vomiting, and omnipresent runny/crusty noses. In fact, I think that all this sickly time together has made our holiday pleasant, strange as that may sound, because of the last item on the list.

Or maybe I’ve just consumed too many extra strength cold medications.