I was a meme virgin, but I was tagged by Beck (okay, I asked her to tag me). Here we go!

8 Things I’m Looking Forward To

1. Spring – it’s kind of here, many of my plants are starting to poke up. IT’S ABOUT TIME.
2. Having a glass of wine tonight. But then, I’m always looking forward to that.
3. Incessantly watching NYPD Blue reruns on DVD this week. My husband will be away, and I’m not looking forward to that, but it does give me the freedom to obsessively watch David Caruso. (“Tell him John Kelly is looking for him. JOHN KELLY.” Rrrr…..)
4. Eating a LOT of Greek salad this week – another thing I do when the cat’s away. I’m so wild.
5. The Mother’s Day Tea at the preschool this week! Although Jake informed me “I told Ms. Jan I didn’t think I should have tea. But she said I could have juice”. Good to know.
6. Getting the dog groomed. He kind of stinks.
7. Wearing capri pants and sandals, which I’m hoping will happen sometime soon! Rise, mercury, rise!
8. Rob coming home from his week away, and the ensuing – ahem! – reunion. Rrrr….

8 Things I Did Yesterday

1. Ate a frozen chocolate Girl Guide cookie. Bliss in a cookie.
2. Walked the dog.
3. Made pasta sauce, which I loved but no one else seemed all that crazy about.
4. Watched 30 Rock and the Office, and laughed a lot.
5. It was warm enough that I picked the boys up from school wearing only a sweater and t-shirt – no jacket!
6. Worked on my drop-backs, thank you very much lovely teachers.
7. Worked on a post about mommy makeovers.
8. Got grossed out reading about labiaplasty.

8 Things I Wish I Could Do

1. Drop-backs – it’s coming though! Soon, maybe.
2. Cook something really delicious that everyone in my house would eat.
3. Not cry when something goes wrong with the car. Especially something stupid like running out of windshield washer fluid.
4. Be able to open the hood of my car.
5. Downhill ski.
6. Eat unlimited amounts of potato chips, nachos, and the like without gaining any weight.
7. Speak another language.
8. Throw and catch a ball.

8 Shows I Watch

1. 30 Rock – best show on TV.
2. Grey’s Anatomy, although I’m a little disturbed by my crush on Dr. Hunt. He’s a wacko! Why do I find him soooo sexy?
3. America’s Next Top Model. I’m slightly ashamed.
4. Jeopardy!
5. How I Met Your Mother – next to 30 Rock, this is the funniest show on TV.
6. NYPD Blue Season One. For reasons previously stated.
7. American Idol – full disclosure, I don’t usually like this show but my husband watches it. This year, it’s pretty good! I’m actually enjoying it.
8. Breakfast Television. Sometimes for a laugh I call it the news.

Meme deflowering complete!

Hey, have you heard of this thing called the “swine flu”? No?

I am having a strange time with all the coverage of H1N1. On the one hand, I feel like there is a teensy bit of panic and fear mongering going on. The reality is that 300 people die of the flu, the regular old flu, in Alberta every year. Currently there are six cases in Calgary, which is a city of over a million people. So perhaps a little perspective is needed.

On the other hand, I am a person who glares warily at people coughing and sneezing at the best of times, and relating to me that your child was up all night vomiting will inevitably lead to me surreptitiously sanitizing my hands at the first possible moment. “Germ-paranoid” is a term that comes to mind.

The thing about the H1N1, which I am using out of respect for pork producers, because although I am vegetarian, there are some serious pork fans in my house (“Pork chops! Yay!!!”), is that there is really nothing to be done in terms of prevention other than the regular old hand-washing and avoidance of people who are infected. Which is kind of common-sense, you know. And one of the great things about the internet and massive media coverage is that there is awareness – so people who are sick have a free pass to stay at home and recover, to keep away from the general public.

(Just writing that, I recall my former place of employment, which completely frowned upon people calling in sick. The guys I worked with would show up in all sorts of contagious stages, hacking and coughing and practically passing out at their desks. I myself once showed up to work with a massive kidney infection, typing away in agony, putting my exhausted head in my hands every hour or so, until I had finished my daily tasks and went home to ingest antibiotics.)

What precautions, if any, are you taking against this flu? Are you canceling vacations? Are you turning into an agoraphobic germ-phobe (like me, although I am fighting this urge in an attempt to seem normal)? Or, are you taking normal precautions against illness like hand-washing, but keeping your perspective?

My husband likes to blame much of society’s ills on what he calls the “hippie generation”. Every time he does, I giggle a little inside, because the term “hippie generation” makes him sound like he’s an extraordinarily crotchety 75-year-old, and while I did bag myself an older husband, he’s not a senior citizen for goodness’ sake. And yes, I’m aware that by saying “goodness sake” I myself sound like I’m 75.

But back to the hippie generation. Among other things, my husband blames problems with the justice system, paroled sex offenders, laxity in the school system, and children’s behavioural issues on those damn hippies. While I may or may not agree with blaming the general downfall of society on one particular group, I do feel that there is far too much laxity with children and behaviour these days.

The thing is, there are a lot of fun and sweet parts to being a parent, but there are a lot of difficult parts too. Difficult: discipline. It is hard to discipline your children, and by discipline of course I mean correcting behaviours and ensuring that your child is not a spoiled brat destined to become a self-indulgent bratty adult with a sense of entitlement. It’s not a fun part of parenting but it is an important and very necessary part, one that does NOT go hand-in-hand with being your child’s best friend.

What I’m saying is, if you set low expectations for your children, they will always fulfill them. If you don’t apply rules and boundaries, your children will have problems. I’m not talking about some craziness a la the Babywise school of parenting, or not picking up your crying baby, or anything silly like that. I’m talking about boundaries, and lessons, and all that other stuff that is not fun. Without knowing where their boundaries are, children become unsure and act out.

I work really hard at teaching manners, instilling respect, and taming behavioural problems as they arise. It sucks, it is not fun, but I work hard at it. When I see five-year-olds slapping their mothers, screaming “Why didn’t you remember my hat? You’re so dumb!”, and falling to the floor shrieking, completely unchecked, I think, those are their peers, who they will be spending the majority of their time with in a few years, and I feel like I’m swimming upstream.

I don’t write much when I’m sad. I don’t mind writing about being sad, but I don’t like to write when I am currently sad. There is a reason for this. I feel, I really do, that I am an extremely fortunate person and that I have more than most. I mean, I have a healthy family and a loving, employed husband and in the grand scheme of things, this feels like the ultimate in blessings. Although I have had many sad periods in my life, now is not one of them, and so when I feel sad it feels a bit…self indulgent. Or spoiled. Either way I feel like if I’m all mopey about something trivial, fate is going to deal me something bad. It’s kind of like the karmic equivalent of “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!”. Or, a phrase commonly used in my household “Suck it up, buttercup”. I know! Repress feelings! I would have made a great Englishwoman.

As it is, I’m a nice, albeit bizarre, combination of Scottish and Norwegian heritage.

But yesterday I was SO SAD and moped around a bit. My usual routines felt oppressive to me, and I kept interrupting said routines to look out the window at the grey sky and brown grass, which was soon to be covered in a fresh blanket of snow, while the children shrieked and fought in the background, probably because their mother is a nut. And although I tend to be quite glib and jovial about Calgary weather – it always snows in the spring! And in the summer sometimes too! Remember the July Stampede when it snowed! – really, the weather was getting me down. The temperatures hovering around freezing, the snow, the wind. Really it’s quite depressing. But, as they say, if you can’t change something, change the way you feel about it. I mean, I’m not Ma Ingalls and it’s not like trains are not going to get through and we are all going to die of starvation. Perspective, people.

And so my husband cheered me up by indulging in one of our favourite semi-annual activities – minds out of the gutter people! – which is looking at houses on-line, talking about buying a different house, and then concluding that our house is just FINE, thank you, and we aren’t moving. We have a nice house for kids – it’s got a good sized kitchen, a fully developed basement for a play area, and a gorgeous yard and garden. Which are currently covered in snow. Snap! Enough of that! Back to thinking about Ma Ingalls.

Did you see Grey’s Anatomy last night? If you did, and you are a parent, you probably know what I’m going to talk about, and it’s not the explosion of pregnant TV actresses (what is up with the girls on How I Met Your Mother? Don’t drink the water on THAT set.)

Anyway. On Grey’s, there was a little girl who was dying of Tay-Sachs disease, and it was very sadly portrayed. As she was entering her last stages, her father, frantic to find a little more time, was looking into alternative treatments in Mexico, spending the last few hours of her life on the phone. Meanwhile, the little girl was being rocked and held by one of the doctors. Fortunately the father figured out that all he needed to do was just hold his daughter until she passed, spending the last little bit of time she had with her. I sobbed into my (now-empty) wineglass and my (very patient) husband patted my back.

It occurred to me that often, as parents, we are frantically busy doing many things for our children, and while many of those things cannot be avoided, many can be put aside to just give our kids our time. It’s sort of like spending time trolling the internet to get ideas for activities and crafts, and then being annoyed when our children interrupt us to ask if we want to play trains. Not that this has EVER happened to me, I’m just saying. Usually they just want you to spend time with them, and it’s the nature of children not to really care if you have anything else on the go.

I think it’s a sad part of our society these days that kids are often viewed as inconvenient – their need for time and attention, their incessant hunger, their very being. It can really cramp your style, the whole having kids thing. But the thing is, they are little for a very short period of time. That period of time, where they want to spend time with you, where they want you to play with them, or colour a picture, or do a puzzle, or play Hungry Hungry Hippos for the millionth time – this period is short, and fleeting, and needs to be cherished. Even when you feel like another game of farm animals may just suck you dry. I’m just saying.

Queen Elizabeth II and I have something important in common; we share the same birthday, which is today! By writing this, it is clear I am not the type of person who coyly skirts the birthday issue, or likes to keep birthday celebrations to a minimum as my husband does. No, I’m the type of person who tells random people in the grocery store that it’s my birthday just to receive the many happy returns. If it was socially acceptable for a woman in her mid-thirties to walk around with a birthday crown and a button saying “Birthday Girl”, I would.

There isn’t much in the way of celebration today, as it’s a Tuesday and soccer season begins today, and so does my sojourn into soccer-mom-world. But what a lovely weekend I had. My husband took me out to Lake Louise, where we walked by the frozen lake and remembered how we got engaged there – nearly nine years ago – and also how we used to hike around there a lot when we were younger and childless and footloose and fancy free. My husband and the boys later surprised me with a cake and some yoga gear, and it felt like the best birthday celebration ever.

Today is warm and sunny and I’m ignoring the fact that the snow is coming later this week. Oh Calgary! If you love unpredictability in the weather and unseasonable temperatures any time of the year, it is the place to be. Today I’m going to enjoy the sunshine, and I just feel so grateful and blessed.

A little while ago, an article was circulating entitled “Why do friends with kids never have time?”, all about stay at home moms and what they do all day. I agreed with the article’s general sentiment but thought it was a bit mean spirited and maybe even a little self-righteous. I mean, really, unless you are actually at home with kids, you probably don’t know what that entails. And that’s okay. So here is my day, today. Now get ready, it’s pretty glamourous.

5:30 – Yoga: my favourite part of the day.

7:00 – Prepare, eat, and clean up after breakfast. Shower, do laundry, “encourage” boys to get dressed, etc., while I wonder what to do with all the new layers my hair seems to be in. Read “Magic School Bus Takes a Moonwalk” and wonder if Neil Armstrong actually did walk on the moon, or are the conspiracy theorists correct?

9:15 – Take the boys grocery shopping to Superstore. Good Lord. Stand in line behind the least efficient shopper ever, and try to think nice thoughts.

10:45 – Unload massive amounts of groceries.

11:00 – Check email and think, not for the first time, that my idea of getting involved by volunteering to be soccer coordinator was very, very ill thought out.

11:30 – Prepare, eat, and clean up after lunch.

12:00 – Make two giant batches of muffins for snack at the preschool tomorrow, as well as mini-muffins for today. While they are baking, I accomplish the following tasks: folding laundry, being the “crew chief” for the game “race cars” in which the boys run laps around the house making loud engine noises, wash dishes (again), supervise and help out with five different craft projects, one of which is a disastrous effort with glitter glue, and mediate the debate “Resolved: Scooby Doo’s real name is Scooby Dooby Doo”.

1:30 – Cut back some perennials in the yard and remove a bit of leaf mulch, with helpers. Helpers scatter debris all over yard, attempt to rake it up independently, and as a result the dog is covered in leaf mulch, dead grass, and twigs.

2:30 – Snack time! Prepare and clean up snack. I think I see a pattern emerging. Slice up two pounds of strawberries while listening to two very long, very detailed stories that are overlapping but not really making sense. Brush the dog and vacuum up immense amounts of leaf mulch, dead grass, and twigs.

3:00 – Help Jake build a fort under the coffee table. He and Mark start a strange and disturbing game in which one of their stuffed dogs is being held prisoner. A whole lot of pipe cleaners are involved. I play the piano for a bit to regroup a little.

4:00 – Start dinner preparations. Life would be so much easier if I had a personal chef. If ever I become extraordinarily rich, that is what I would get.

5:00 – Dinner. I’m all ready for retirement. Dinner at five. Guess what? Dishes!

6:15 – Rob arrives home and I make a break for it, taking the dog for a walk. Ah, my little canine friend. I love him so. Come home in time for bedtime snacks (sheesh, kids eat a lot), stories, bath and bed.

7:30 – Drink wine and write down this list. Now, it’s off to watch Hell’s Kitchen and fall asleep before 9:30! The glamour! The intrigue! And I wouldn’t trade it for the world.